A wonderful family moment tonight of walking Windsor out in temperate temperatures, holding hands underneath an iridescent moon.
1 month we've been newlyweds...
Thank goodness for the fall <3
Monday, October 25, 2010
Friday, October 15, 2010
mrs.
I didn't believe when friends warned me that getting married would be so exhausting. This is an important statement/piece of advice for folks following the traditional route as we did -- get engaged, plan for a year, enlist a church/reverend to marry you, use a reception hall to host a big party. Exhausting! Fortunately, the fatigue from the experience can't outweigh the monumental gratification of being surrounded by our closest friends and family, and solidifying the chapter of our lives as one unit.
Moreso than even the six years preceding, the week after Mike and I were married, I felt so whole. We had just signed a couple papers, and recited loving words, and danced the night away. The wedding didn't change the love behind our union, but it really grounded the relationship for me as part of a married couple. Partners-in-crime we tackled selecting photos to put together our album (not finished yet), and closed and joined and refurbished bank accounts under our married alias (almost there), and finally -- I am personally with health insurance again (horray!). These technicalities of course do not create a marriage, but they help outline the kind of working relationship that we have always had.
Honesty has always been at the forefront of our friendship/intimate relationship, and discussing openly how we wanted to finance, and set goals for our shared life can be a scary thing. Internally, you think you already know how your partner stands on certain issues, including that of buying a future home, having children, raising children in a certain environment. But people change. From experiences together, and experiences apart; from interactions with coworkers and other married couples, Mike and I have really exposed our truest urges and feelings regarding what had been whispered before as the "future." The future is always happening, you live another minute and you're saying goodbye to the present. Fortunately, between the pair of us, one is generally peering into later months and aspects of our life that take a little planning, and the other is holding on to how to reach that distant life by examining how we're living now to plan for it. (Can you guess who is who?) The best part of all of this new couple of weeks? ...
Love has never left us feeling more confident.
Moreso than even the six years preceding, the week after Mike and I were married, I felt so whole. We had just signed a couple papers, and recited loving words, and danced the night away. The wedding didn't change the love behind our union, but it really grounded the relationship for me as part of a married couple. Partners-in-crime we tackled selecting photos to put together our album (not finished yet), and closed and joined and refurbished bank accounts under our married alias (almost there), and finally -- I am personally with health insurance again (horray!). These technicalities of course do not create a marriage, but they help outline the kind of working relationship that we have always had.
Honesty has always been at the forefront of our friendship/intimate relationship, and discussing openly how we wanted to finance, and set goals for our shared life can be a scary thing. Internally, you think you already know how your partner stands on certain issues, including that of buying a future home, having children, raising children in a certain environment. But people change. From experiences together, and experiences apart; from interactions with coworkers and other married couples, Mike and I have really exposed our truest urges and feelings regarding what had been whispered before as the "future." The future is always happening, you live another minute and you're saying goodbye to the present. Fortunately, between the pair of us, one is generally peering into later months and aspects of our life that take a little planning, and the other is holding on to how to reach that distant life by examining how we're living now to plan for it. (Can you guess who is who?) The best part of all of this new couple of weeks? ...
Love has never left us feeling more confident.
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